Love vs. Loving

The Difference Between “I Love You” and Loving You

               I’m all for expressing yourself. And if that means saying “I Love You” frequently, then so be it!

But what if you say these words and then don’t back it up with consistent action? The meaning becomes tainted. You give Love a bad name when you go about making a claim that you then don’t fully substantiate.

With Valentine’s Day having recently passed, it’s a perfect time to recognize how we can up our Love game and really show the special people in our lives how much we care.

Show and Tell

               So how do you do more than just tell people you Love them? How do you make sure they know what it means to be Loved by you?

               Love can be made up of many components: attraction, appreciation, admiration, affection. There are certainly more complex and subtle emotions to certain types of love. But these four are a good place to make sure you’re covering your bases when it comes to fully expressing your Love on a regular basis.

Attraction

Let people you Love know that you like being near them by expressing what you Love about them. Encourage them to shine their unique light because they deserve to attract all that they desire into their life.

Take care of yourself because staying attractive shows people you care enough to want them to want you around too!

               Keep attraction strong by investing time in mutually enjoyable activities. Bring the Joy! Enjoy the Love!

Appreciation

               When you appreciate something, it grows. So you want to make sure you encourage your Loved ones to blossom into the fullness of who they are by communicating your gratitude for their presence in your life.

Let them know, “I appreciate you. You are a blessing to me.” Say “Thank you” often.

               And more than telling, show your appreciation by dedicating focused time and attention to this person that you care about so deeply. Practice active listening and pay attention to the needs and wants of this valuable individual. Support their goals and visions with your encouragement. Believe in their dreams and encourage their creative nature.

Admiration

Sincere compliments are gifts. Give them freely and often.

And if there are exemplary traits that are worthy of imitation, follow their lead! When you admire a quality in another, it’s probably worth developing in yourself.

In case you find yourself being critical, take a deep breath and remember what you do admire about the person you're being critical of. Focusing on positive attributes usually nurtures these parts of a person, bringing out their best.

Affection

               Hugs. Kisses. Backrubs. Foot rubs. Full body massage. Snuggling. Grooming. Smiles. Shared laughter. Eye contact. Kind words. Kind thoughts. Kind deeds.

            Say “I’m sorry,” when you make a mistake. Affection is being gentle and tender, even when life gets hairy. You may not always feel “lovey-dovey”, but you want to remember that you hold this person dear to your heart.

Let your Love be known.

There are so many ways to say “I Love You” without even saying the words.

Every Day, whether it's Love Day or not, commit to Loving your Loved Ones, with “I Love You” and so much more!